Advice on Changing Your Life

5.13.18

I felt the frustration creep in. It tends to do that when the reality of my situation slaps me in the face. I see where I want to be and it’s not where I am. The thoughts of “why me” or “God, it was stupid of me to do that” and “I could be further along” enter my mind.

“Refocus Erin,” I tell myself. “Keep moving, you’ll get there. Don’t stop here. Don’t dwell on what you don’t have. All you can do is take it one step at a time.”

And so I do. That is, until the next time.

To say I’d rather run away than to face my problems head on is an accurate statement. In the moment of dread, it’s easier to run. It can be disheartening to see how far I must travel. And I’m sure that’s true for of the majority of us.

But by running away, I was perpetually stuck in the same spot for years. And there it is – the hard truth:

Running away from our problems only has us running in circles. We’re exhausted but we’ve gotten nowhere.

When I stopped running, long enough to take a look at myself in the mirror, I didn’t like what I saw. I knew I needed to change, but how?

Simply: one decision at a time.

I have found that when I start to take action, no matter the size, I make progress. 

It doesn’t come in leaps and bounds, life rarely does. Instead, it’s the small actions we take that add up to great things. One moment at a time. One day at a time. 

If you falter or find that you’ve reverted back to running away, that’s okay. I’ve taken countless steps backward but I have also made the choice to get back up and move forward again & again & again.

So take a breath. Remember who you want to be. Make the decision to start again tomorrow or start again right now.

And I want to encourage you, if you feel so far away from the person you want to be, remember that no matter where you are, you are still beautiful. Your current situation and your past do not define you.

We make the choice every day to define ourselves. One step at a time.

 

This week’s featured song is Bearson’s “One Step At A Time” (feat. Natalola). So put on your headphones and be prepared to dance around the house!

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