It sounds so simple: Just be yourself.

But we are first shaped by those who raise us and then we are influenced by our peer group. With all of these external forces shaping us, how can we be sure that who we are is who we are?

I don’t have a scientific, researched answer for that but what I can tell you is that we have inner wisdom constantly trying to get our attention. Many times I ignore mine, but the times when I listen, I feel the most like myself. You see, it doesn’t matter what anyone else wants from us because we all have that inner wisdom inside.

The issue becomes that we often ignore it. We choose instead to do the “right” thing; the thing that keeps us the most average person possible. Do we do this because we think it’s safer? On some level, I say yes. “It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us,” says Marianne Williamson.

We have a fear of being socially ostracized from the group. This is, I hear, carried over from our primitive ancestors. After all, if the group left you behind you were very likely left for dead. We don’t want to stand out or be different because we don’t want to die. It seems crazy but think about our modern world and how we see and treat those that are different from us. No wonder we still cling to the idea that being apart of the group is safest.

But I think we can learn to truly listen to that inner wisdom because I have started to listen to mine and am slowly being awakened to the uniqueness of being myself.

What being ourselves requires is taking a step outside of our comfort zones. What it requires is listening to the wisdom of others and applying what resonates into our daily lives. What it requires is getting out of our own way.

What does it mean to be who you are? It means you are courageous in the face of uncertainty. It means you are able to speak your truth even when your voice is shaking. It means listening to your inner wisdom, actually listening, and taking a step outside your comfort zone no matter how small.

“Defying Gravity” from Wicked
“It’s time to trust my instincts
Close my eyes and leap “

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